In my opinion, being approachable is almost a synonym for femininity as being feminine can make someone very approachable!
How to make yourself more approachable
- Make yourself appear friendly. Better yet, make sure that you are friendly. What do friendly people have in common? They smile, they strike up conversations with those around them, even in the supermarket lineup; they hold their head up high and come off as confident. Laugh at jokes! Humor is the best indicator of approach-ability.
- Hone in on your look. Your look, as in your wardrobe, your hair, and your makeup if you wear any. Plan out your outfits and ensure that your wardrobe is filled with flattering clothes that are clean and without holes or stains. Wear minimal makeup if possible or create a style that is your own. Polish your look off with well-cared for hair. Not necessarily a coiffed style every day, but clean and managed. If you haven’t created your own beauty routine yet, now is the perfect time to try and create one. A routine that allows you to apply the same makeup and do your hair similar each day. The more you do it, the fast you get at it! Plan your outfits out on the weekend so that you know exactly what you are going to wear and how you are going to finish off your look. A little self-discipline here goes a long way.
- Don’t come off as a picky person. Lifestyle and diets are important to creating great, healthy habits and ensuring a good amount of self-care. With that said, asking the barista at the coffee shop to measure your nutmeg for your calorie count is going a bit too far. Also try to avoid making poor faces when things don’t go your ways or if you are caught off guard.
- Don’t fear eye contact. You look across the room and see the person you were interested in is staring right back at you. Your immediate reaction is to look away quickly. This can come off as meaning that you are not at all interested in interacting with this person. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact. If you are looking at someone and they catch you looking, simply smile and then look away if you deem it appropriate to do so. Don’t stare, of course…
- Relax your body posture. Body language speaks a lot louder than words. Approachable people are soft and graceful; not forced and rigid.
Think of your favourite person and how they look when you are walking up to them. Chances are, they have an open postures without their arms crossed. A smile likely graces their face and they greet you with an openness that emulates a long lost friend who is finally being reunited!